Trauma is often viewed as something unnatural—an unfortunate detour in life to be avoided at all costs. But is this perspective truly serving us? What if trauma is not outside the bounds of our genetic expectations? What if, instead of being a mistake, it is an inevitable part of the human experience—woven into the fabric of what it means to be alive?
When we believe trauma shouldn’t happen, we place ourselves in a constant state of resistance. This resistance can amplify suffering and disrupt our ability to heal. But is there another way? Could we reframe trauma as an opportunity for growth, aligning more closely with life’s natural rhythms?
Dr. Lisa Miller, author of The Awakened Brain, offers a compelling perspective grounded in neuroscience. She explains that being in a state of "wanting"—longing for life to be different—pulls us out of what she calls the "awakened brain" state. This state, characterized by acceptance and presence, enables us to connect with resilience and clarity. In contrast, avoidance—resisting trauma or fearing its arrival—places us in a state of wanting, which can block healing and personal transformation.
The suggestion is profound: cultivating an attitude of acceptance toward trauma can unlock an unexpected path to personal growth. When we shift our mindset—from fearing trauma to seeing it as an opportunity to "level up"—we can transform our relationship with life’s challenges.
Instead of contracting in fear, we might begin to embrace the unknown as part of life’s unfolding mystery. This shift invites us to treat trauma not as a trial but as an adventure that holds the potential for growth and self-discovery.
Within every trauma lies the potential for transformation. By integrating these experiences, we can uncover unique gifts that deepen our understanding of ourselves and the world. Functional breathing techniques, nervous system regulation, and other healing practices can support this process. Trauma, then, is not a curse but an invitation to grow, expand, and align with the unfolding adventure of being human.
References
Miller, L. (2021). The Awakened Brain: The New Science of Spirituality and Our Quest for an Inspired Life. Random House.
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